The above links link to two tumblr blogs that I feel are very very important. I’m sure many of you have seen these blogs, or even submitted to them. And I’m sure many of you have seen these submissions/photos be reblogged by some unknown person, and taged with hurtful words such as “ugly” or “gross”. With heart breaking and confidence crushing comments left underneath them. I know this is true because this has happend to me, and my photos. And it certainly did hurt. But the hurt doesn’t last.
This is the internet, and you know what? There are hundreds of people on tumblr who are going to think negatively of me, my blog, and the blogs above. But that certainly does not mean they are right, or that their comments and opinions hold any bearing on me or my life. And I want all of you to realize that and understand that the same goes for you. On the internet, and in real life. This world is filled with negativity. There will always be people who are rude and nasty and people who go out of their way to hurt/upset you. It would be easy to say just ignore their comments and everything will be fine and dandy, but I understand that that is not true. No matter what, those comments will get to you and they will hurt.
As Bec (the woman who created the Chubby Bunny blog) stated in a video she recently posted, hurtful comment can seriously hurt anyone. Even the strongest women can be brought down when constantly faced with negitivity. And I understand that. There are days when I feel incredible, but there are also days when I just feel horrible about myself and my appearance and weight, and nothing seems to help me feel better. But those are the days that I log onto tumblr and I go to one of those blogs and I scroll through the photos and text. I realize that I am not the only one who feels this way sometimes. And that helps. Knowing that there are so many women on these blogs who share their best feelings and their worse. We are not alone in our hurt. And this is what helps me rise above the hurt.
Anyone can reblog a photo of a beautiful woman and leave nasty hurtful comments. But not just anyone can post a photo of themselves for the world to see, and judge. That takes strength. We need to remember that we are so much more than these trolls, these hurtful people. They can say what they like about us, and yes, it will hurt sometimes, but those comments don’t change us. They don’t stop us from being wonderful, talented, smart, strong. They can say all they like and reblog all they like, but they can’t take away the unity that we share and the beauty that we posses. There are so many people who feel awful about themselves and if I can help just one of those people realize their strength and beauty, I will serve my purpose. Everyone deserves to feel amazing and we owe it to ourselves and each other to share the feeling, because maybe if we do, we will pass the feeling on to someone else who has yet to feel it.
Don’t ever think that you are ugly, or gross or any of those terrible words. You are exactly what you want to be and exactly what you make of yourself. And if you realize that, then you are complete and ready to let yourself shine. Everyone has their ups and downs, some more than others. But next time you feel down, log onto one of these blogs. Remember that each one of these women has felt the same way you do, but with the support of each other, we can make the world a better place. Spread the strength and share the confidence. We are all beautiful. Let the haters hate, and let yourself shine.